Who Me, Old? Bah!

Who Me, Old? Bah!

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Frances H. Kakugawa
Hawai‘i Herald Columnist

Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa


It was a time of innocence . . .

Sitting on beds in college dorms,

Questioning, not the nature of our universe

Or that of mankind. They were questions

Not yet found in college texts.

“What kind of car do you want

Your next boyfriend to drive?”

“A sports car,” I said. “Preferably red.”

“A truck,” said someone born in Michigan.

“How about children?”

And we sat naming our children

Without chromosomes and half their DNA.

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Frances Kakugawa was her mother’s primary caregiver during her five-year journey with Alzheimer’s disease. A native of Kapoho on the Big Island of Hawai‘i, she now lives in Sacramento, Calif. Frances has melded her professional training as a writer and teacher and her personal experiences as her mother’s caregiver to write several books on caring for people with memory-related illnesses, including one for children. Frances is a highly sought-after speaker, both in Hawai‘i and on the Mainland, sharing strategies for caregiving, as well as coping with caregiving.



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