Dear Frances – Word Therapy

Dear Frances – Word Therapy

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Omoiyari . . . Think of others first and good karma will return to you. — Frances H. Kakugawa

Dear Frances,

This is my second letter to you because I am having difficulty dealing with some issues regarding my mom’s stay at the rehab facility.

My mom, as I had mentioned in the last letter, fell and broke her hip, had surgery, was hospitalized for five days, then was moved to a rehab center. She is extremely upset and agitated, yelling that she wants to go home. My daily visits are fine while I’m there, but she gets frantic when I leave. I am exhausted myself and scared for her, as I have not seen her like this since she was diagnosed with dementia eight years ago. Do you have any suggestions? I am seeing a counselor who specializes in aging issues, but don’t know where else to turn for answers. Thank you for your time and concern.


Sacramento, Calif.

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Frances Kakugawa was her mother’s primary caregiver during her five-year journey with Alzheimer’s disease. A native of Kapoho on the Big Island of Hawai‘i, she now lives in Sacramento, Calif. Frances has melded her professional training as a writer and teacher and her personal experiences as her mother’s caregiver to write several books on caring for people with memory-related illnesses, including one for children. Frances is a highly sought-after speaker, both in Hawai‘i and on the Mainland, sharing strategies for caregiving, as well as coping with caregiving.



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